Isn't it hilarious how humans willingly sign up for a lifetime subscription to “Sharing Everything™”? Your room, your bed, your time, energy, finances, responsibilities heck, even your favorite snacks! And for what? Love? Companionship? Free Netflix access?
But here’s the fun part: most people don’t just wake up one day and say, “You know what? I think I’ll merge my entire existence with someone else's today!” Nope. It usually happens when they’re at their lowest, weakest, and most emotionally fragilelike a bad flu but for the heart. And just like how we rush to gulp down a painkiller for a headache, we subconsciously “open a port” (yes, like an incoming network port for feelings) and let another person’s energy plug right in.
The problem? Not all "emotional medications" come with a prescription. Some are miracle cures, and others? Well, let’s just say they should’ve been recalled “years” ago. Sure, relationships help us heal, but what if we just let nature do its thing? Our bodies already have built-in antibodies to fight off infections, and maybe just “maybe” our minds and hearts do too.
Yet, here we are, addicted to external emotional band-aids. We keep taking the “painkillers” (a.k.a. relationships) long after the wound has healed, turning into full-blown emotional junkies. Until one day, “boom” we realize the healing we were desperately searching for in others was inside us all along. And that, my friends, is “the absolute pleasure” of self-discovery. 😉 well no offense! Cheers 🥂

PS: This isn’t anti-love.This is pro-choice: love from wholeness, not from a dopamine debt.

Chandani Kapoor.

03h12 Wednesday Feb 5th, 2025